Most of us dread the feeling of packing up and moving to a new place. While we tend to focus on the practicalities and how we can get the tiring process over with as quickly as possible, your children may look at it a bit differently. It’s the nostalgia and sudden change, the break to their old habits, and a sense of unquestionable uncertainty.
New school, new friends, strange teachers – it’s almost as if we’re six again by just thinking about it, tiny, helpless, and nervously anticipating the move.
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As a parent, you can do a lot to make the process of moving house easier on your child, and even help them to look a bit forward to it. Here is a handful of the best tips from experts out there, making the future look much brighter.
Involve them in the move
As it often is with life and changes, we tend to worry about the little things. Your child isn’t thinking much about making the ends meet in your new house, though, or how you’ll be able to maintain such a big garden – they’ll be missing their friends and the old neighbourhood instead.
There is a silver lining to everything, so focus on making the conversation positive when you’re preparing to move. Invite your children to go house-hunting with you, for example, give them the task of figuring out what kind of decorations they’d like, and talk about how much fun you’re going to have. If you’re still deciding on the kind of area you’d like to move to, have a look at mortgageloans.co for an overlook of the best alternatives.
Talk about your feelings
Acknowledge their feelings and let them know that it’s perfectly normal to feel a bit sad, while also helping them to feel slightly excited about it all. Although you want them to be happy and cheerful, it’s important that you don’t ignore their sad comments and bids for comfort; let them know that you’re also sad about moving, and you’re going to visit the old area as often as possible.
When they seem blue about the move, cheer them up by pointing out that sure, you had a great playground in your old area and the neighbour kids will be missed, but you will come back to visit them. Even better, you can invite them over for sleepovers in your new, big bedroom. And what about the playground that’s just around the corner from your new home? It’s so much to be happy and grateful for.
The first couple of weeks will be a rollercoaster ride, that’s for sure, and you’re going to experience a few sleepless nights and a lot of tears. Keep in mind that it will pass and your children will settle in soon enough – it may not be as soon as you’d like it to be, so give them time, and read up on helpiammoving.com if you’re moving with a toddler.
Let them see their old friends on Skype if you’re moving far away, and encourage them to invite them over for sleepovers in their new room; it will make the transition so much smoother for all of you.