No matter how involved in delivery your partner is, women still to bear the brunt of childbirth. Why, because men can’t do it physically. Kind of makes you wonder if this ever makes Dad feel as if he is not as valued.
Finding a place for the guy in childbirth is a necessary part of the process. Of course, it isn’t straightforward because it’s not like you can pass on the pregnancy to your man. If you feel like Dad might be a bit sensitive here are a few things you can do to make him feel more valued.
Do Everything Together
With somethings this may seem obvious, such as going to doctor appointments. Often times Dad is more eager Mom for these appointments, after all he is not the person getting examined. Other things you may want to make sure he is involved in are things you may not think of . For example take the baby books. Both of you will read them, but you might shop for them without his input. Picking out the book that will record your baby’s future may be as important for him as it is for you.
Request Attention For Him
If it seems like Dad is left out of the conversations at appointments ask that he be included. I would hope anyone working with expectant parents would already do this. Sometimes something as simple Dad getting a little eye contact can make him feel less left out of the loop.
Get Him To Take A Break
From work, that is. He might be on vacation from the office, but he’ll have plenty to do at home. The first couple of weeks are the most important for new moms and dads, so it’s vital that he’s around. Not only will he get the chance to bond, but your guy should also pick up the slack while you’re recovering. Click here to see and to listen to how loved ones can be your rock in those initial weeks after giving birth. Paternity for dads is two weeks legally, yet he should be able to make it three weeks to a month by using his holiday allocation.
When the time comes you may decide you want, or need to return to work. This can be a hard decision to make, but, at times it is the best thing that can happen. Being a stay at home Mom can be very isolating. Face it, you can only watch so much Peppa Pig before you feel like pulling your hair out. For new moms, the relief of an adult routine often feels like heaven. If you can, work on dividing up the time you are with the child, perhaps you can work at nights and Dad can tend baby.